Pet Peeve

For those of you who know me... You may or may not already know this.

I have two pet peeves.  Well, okay.  I have a LOT more than that, but two major ones.  Two worth mentioning tonight.

I cannot stand being lied to, and I cannot stand flaky people.

Here's my logic behind both:

I'm a big girl - I can handle the truth.  I would much rather hear someone say, "hey I'm sick to death of my job, so uhm... I'm not coming in today and you have to find someone to cover my shift." than to know full well that someone had 'better' plans than working and get a phone call saying "*cough cough* I'm sooo ill today.  I've tried to cover my shift, but no luck.  Sorry... "  I really just have no respect for that.

If I ask for your opinion on... well, anything for that matter... it's because I genuinely want and value your opinion.  I don't want to hear what you think I want to hear.  What good does that do for me?  I already know what's in my head!  If you tell me what you think is already in my head, you're not doing me any favors.  But if you genuinely give me your opinion about anything, I'll be forced to analyze my internal struggle from another perspective, thus forcing me into a more educated decision.  What if you have a morsel of information that I'm unaware of, or had failed to consider in said dilemma?

Also, what's the point?  I'd like to be able to say that only lazy people lie.  Not true.  I think it takes more effort to tell a lie.  You have to keep track of whoever you told that lie to vs. who you told the truth to.  And what happens if those people with different versions of the story ever get together?!  And what happens if you vary the story at all?  They'll compare the differences!  Either way - you're caught!  So why not just tell the blasted truth already!?  It's less to remember, less to keep straight and much less stress.  On everyone.

I once caught someone in a lie.  Not to me, to another person - while I was sitting right there.  Thus implicating me in said lie, as well.  It didn't bode well.  When they were off the phone I questioned them about the lie.  What I got back was "Don't worry.  I've never lied to you and I never will.  Unless you give me a reason to.  *playful wink*"  !?!?!?!  Seriously!?  NO!  If anyone ever says crap like that to you - RUN.  Get away as fast as you can!!  It's the biggest load of hoooie you'll ever hear.  If you catch someone in a bold faced lie to someone else you can be assured that they've lied to you too.  If not, then it's just a matter of time...

I think it's these stoopid lies that bring me to my next peeve.  Flaky people.  If you have no intention of doing something, then don't tell people that you do!

Now, okay.  Hold on a second.  I do actually get that things come up.  I always feel like a real cad, when I have to bail on someone.  Mostly it's because I'm not feeling well, I've overbooked myself or I just don't have the cash to do it.  I want to!  Please believe - I REALLY want to do something, if I've committed to it. Sometimes I just can't.  And please understand that what I have to do is never as much fun as what I want to do...

Enter the flaky person.  I think they're different than actually wanting to do something they've committed to. I think this type of person will just tell you whatever they think you wanna hear.  Sounding familiar?  Please refer to peeve #1.

Here's where things start to get a little sketchy in my head.  ie. this is what I don't understand: You call me.  You wanna hang out with me.  You pick the date and time.  You wanna hang out in 2 hours?  uhm... Okay, I can do that... (I'm really busy these days ;))  but if the time that you chose, came and went and I call you because you haven't shown up and I hear something like "oh yeah, sorry.  I had to go in to work.  Can I call you later?"  Sure!  You can call me later, but I'm done answering.

If we've been talking all week about hanging out and the weekend shows up and our plans are still tentative, but you're asking me things like "what is there to do in SLC?" I'm going to be under the impression that you're actually coming to slc to chill with me, as previously planned.  And when you wait until 8pm to tell me that you're not coming because your paycheck was short, I'm going to be a trifle more than just annoyed.  Why didn't said information come out BEFORE 8pm?  BEFORE inquiring about fun things to do in downtown?

Blegh...

I really have no tolerance or patience for this kind of behavior.